One of the most common concerns I hear from people is “My older parent’s behavior is concerning me and I’m worried about her mental abilities.”
As I explained in a related article: it’s not always dementia but often it is. And unless an older person has done a good job planning ahead, it can be very hard and messy for others to intervene as needed.
But hopefully, that’s not yet your situation.
In which case, you might be wondering: Given that it’s so common for aging adults to eventually start slipping mentally — or to be suddenly disabled due to an accident or serious health crisis — what kind of planning should older adults and families do to avoid this kind of situation?
I’ve done some research on this question, and here’s what I found out.
One of the simplest — and often less expensive — smart planning approaches is for an older adult to complete a general durable power of attorney (POA) document.
Especially if the powers granted are broad — which they often are — a POA can enable the designated person (known as the “agent”) to step in and assist with finances, housing, safety, and anything else covered by the POA .
A durable POA allows an agent to take action once the older person is “incapacitated.” In California, such POAs can be used to move a person with dementia to a different living arrangement.
Now, the durable power of attorney approach isn’t perfect. Over the years, I’ve noticed that two broad categories of problems come up:
- Concerns as to whether the agent might be using the POA to financially exploit the situation
- Issues related to determining incapacity and whether the older person should be overridden.
In truth, I have occasionally encountered situations in which different doctors had different opinions on whether an older person was incapacitated. This troubles me, because agents should really only be stepping in and overriding older adults if we’re all sure they’ve lost capacity and are making decisions that don’t serve their overall goals, or are hazardous to others.
Still, a general durable POA is an excellent approach to consider. But I would recommend you pay special attention to how the document is drafted, in order to reduce the risk of financial exploitation and to avoid pitfalls related to determining incapacity.
In this post, I will share:
- What I’ve learned about general durable power of attorney documents
- Why determining incapacitation is often problematic in the real world
- Tips on avoiding a common POA weakness
- What to know about including third-party accounting and other strategies recommended by the American Bar Association, to reduce the risk of financial exploitation by an agent
- Useful resources I’ve found online for more information
Note that POAs are governed by state laws, so the details can vary from state to state. But the general principles are likely to be similar throughout the country. In this post, I’ll focus on California, since this is where I live and practice. If you — or your older relative — don’t live in California, you’ll need to look for specifics for your own state.
The Basics on General Durable Powers of Attorney
A power of attorney document essentially allows a person (known as “the principal”) to give someone else (“the agent”, also known as “attorney-in-fact”) the ability to act on the person’s behalf. The principal needs to be of “sound mind” when signing the form.
A power of attorney generally specifies:
- What kinds of activities and decisions the agent can take on behalf of the principal,
- Whether the agent’s power is effective immediately, or only once the principal is incapacitated,
- Whether the agent’s powers remain effective even if the principal becomes disabled or incapacitated.
A durable power of attorney remains in effect even if the principal is incapacitated, so older adults should always use durable POAs when planning ahead for the future. (Remember: hope for the best, plan for the likely & quite possible.)
In California and in many other states, there are POA forms specific to healthcare, and medical decisions are excluded from the general durable POAs. This means you can designate one person to be your agent for health decisions, and another for financial or legal decisions.
Now, experts often advise older adults to complete both a durable financial POA and a healthcare POA. However, when I looked into this further, I discovered that in California, financial powers are usually included within a general durable power of attorney form.
Here is one commonly used version of the California General Durable Power of Attorney form. A person using this form can give the agent all the powers listed, or can just specify a few of them.
But it’s important to realize that as long as the form complies with the relevant California probate code, the general DPOA form can be written to include more specifics about the agent having the power to move the principal to a new residence and to make personal care decisions.
You’ll also want to consider including additional language recommended by the American Bar Association’s Commission on Law & Aging, which can reduce the risk of financial exploitation. You can learn more about the five safeguards they recommend here: Drafting Advance Planning Documents to Reduce the Risk of Abuse or Exploitation. (I also will summarize these in a section below.)
How are older adults deemed incapacitated?
A durable power of attorney document allows the agent to make decisions either right away, or when the principal is “incapacitated.” In the documents I’ve reviewed, the principal usually has to specify whether the agent has authority immediately, or whether the authority should “spring” into action upon incapacity.
But who determines incapacity, and how? Obviously, this should be a crucial issue for those “springing” POA documents that only allow the agent to take over if the older person is incapacitated.
But even for a POA that gives immediate authority to the agent, the question of defining incapacity can be important. That’s because if the principal and agent should ever disagree, the principal gets to override the agent — unless the principal is incapacitated.
So it seems clear to me that defining incapacity is important. However, this seems to be a serious weak point in many POA documents. Having reviewed several of them in the course of my years practicing geriatrics, here’s what I’ve seen regarding the criteria for determining that the principal is incapacitated:
- Some POA forms say nothing about how to determine the principal is incapacitated.
- Some POA forms say something like this: “[incapacity] may be evidenced by a written statement of my regularly attending physician or two other qualified physicians or by court order.”
- One POA form said: “I shall be determined to be incapacitated, as determined solely by my attending physician and in writing delivered to my Agent.”
(Learn more about how capacity should be evaluated in this article: Incompetence & Losing Capacity: Answers to 7 FAQs.)
The Pitfalls of Incapacity Determination
A few years ago, I consulted on an older woman who had been diagnosed with “severe dementia” based on a neuropsychological evaluation conducted during a hospital stay. Based on this, the agent took over and moved the older woman to a facility.
The problem was that when I met the older person three months later, her mental state actually seemed quite good. Now, she did make several errors on the MOCA test I administered, and likely would struggle to manage finances correctly.
But she certainly was much better than described. Which is not surprising actually, because we know that many aging adults get mentally much worse in the hospital, due to delirium. And we know that it can take months for delirium to resolve; I once had a patient slowly get better over a whole year.
Sadly, this older lady was pretty unhappy about having been moved to a facility. But since she’d been determined to be “incapacitated,” her agent was now the one making the decisions.
(Now, technically if an older person recovers mental capacity and then disagrees with her agent, the agent cannot overrule her. But in practical terms, once a person has been labeled as “lacking capacity,” it can be hard for her to challenge her agent’s authority without pursuing a court process.)
An added problem: prior to hospitalization, she hadn’t had a regular primary care doctor, and she didn’t have any close family. So there was very little information on how her mental state had been prior to hospitalization. Which meant it was harder to determine whether she had dementia, or how advanced it really was.
I share this story because I think it illustrates the pitfalls of incapacity determination and POA forms. These are:
- Capacity can be temporarily impaired or permanently impaired. POA forms usually don’t address this. It would be unfortunate for a person to permanently lose their rights, if later their capacity might improve.
- Most doctors are not trained to evaluate long-term capacity in older adults. But POA forms usually don’t specify what qualifications the attesting doctors should have. Nor do POA forms specify what documentation or evidence a doctor should provide; I have seen many brief statements saying “Ms. So-and-so no longer has capacity to manage her affairs.”
- Some people don’t have a primary care doctor. And an “attending physician” basically means a doctor who has completed residency; it could even be the hospital attending who just met the older person in the hospital. POA forms seem to assume the principal has a doctor who knows him or her well, but that’s a faulty assumption.
In summary, many POA forms are flawed in that the criteria for determining incapacity are either unspecified, hard to apply, or could result in an older adult permanently losing rights prematurely.
Why It’s Essential to Have a General Durable POA
Given the pitfalls of general durable POA forms, some people might conclude they are better off not giving anyone power of attorney, for fear that they’ll lose their rights inappropriately.
Furthermore, giving another person the authority to manage your finances is a big deal, because historically, POA forms have not included clauses that enable others to exercise oversight of the agent. So it is often possible for an agent to misuse or even steal an older person’s financial assets.
For these reasons, many older adults never get around to completing a durable general POA.
But frankly, this is usually a mistake. Despite the potential for a POA to be misused, things almost always go worse for aging adults when no POA has been appointed.
That is because in the absence of a POA, a family may need to go to court for conservatorship in order to take over the affairs of an older loved one who has been incapacitated by an accident, a health crisis, or even developed a chronic mental condition such as Alzheimer’s or another dementia. That is a time-consuming and expensive process, plus it usually means that whoever becomes conservator will have to provide regular reports to the court.
So, provided an older person still has the capacity to complete legal paperwork and make major decisions, it’s better to complete paperwork to allow someone else to take over affairs without a complex court proceeding. A general durable POA can enable this.
For a Better General Durable Power of Attorney
Reminder: I am not an attorney. But given the problems I’ve seen people encounter with their POA documents, I would really recommend that any general durable POA document you — or your family member — completes address two key issues:
- Better language specifying how incapacity is determined, and
- Protective clauses enabling oversight of the agent’s activities, to reduce the risk of financial exploitation.
Addressing incapacity
My feeling is that the incapacity specifications should account for the possibility of delirium, and should provide for the possibility that the incapacity might get better. Alternatively, the language needs to do a better job of making physicians state that the principal has permanent and irreversible changes to the thinking abilities, as demonstrated by the problems not improving over at least 3 months, or some such.
I haven’t yet seen an actual POA that contains such language, but I did find an online legal article titled “Elder Law Incapacity Planning” and it suggested this language, which is better than most:
” [Trustee] shall be considered incapacitated if the Trustee becomes unable to manage his or her business affairs due to illness or for any other cause, and that incapacity is likely to continue.” (pg 7 of PDF)
(By the way, the sample health care directive addendum on page 5 of the PDF is impressive in its specificity and clarity about what someone might want in the event of advanced dependency; would recommend people take a look.)
Reducing the risk of financial exploitation
Historically, most power of attorney documents have allowed the agent to have a lot of power to manage the principal’s finances and affairs, while requiring virtually no oversight.
Most agents dutifully do their best on behalf of an incapacitated older person. But an unscrupulous (or financially needy) agent can easily divert or misuse funds.
To address this issue, in 2018 the American Bar Association’s Commission on Law & Aging published an issue brief, suggesting several safeguards that can be included when drafting a durable general power of attorney, to reduce the risk of financial exploitation.
I recommend making note of these, because as of today, they are NOT routinely included in most durable POA documents unless you specifically request them when getting the document drafted.
Here are the five key safeguards to consider:
- Third-party accounting. This means the agent will have to provide records of financial transactions to someone else.
- Second signatures for major transactions. This means the agent will have to get a designated other person to agree and sign, for certain major financial transactions (e.g. selling a home, liquidating a major investment).
- Power to revoke. This authorizes a trusted third party to revoke the power of the agent. This could also be used to authorize Adult Protective Services or another agency to revoke agent’s authority. (Without a power to revoke specified in the document, it usually requires court intervention to remove an agent as POA.)
- Define gifting powers. This means limiting the agent’s authority to bestow gifts, either by prohibiting gifting entirely or by clearly specifying permitted recipients and/or limits on amounts.
- Limiting powers. This can be used to prevent the agent from changing the right of survivorship for bank accounts, or beneficiary designations for trusts, life insurance policies, or other similarly valuable assets.
Although these safeguards are especially intended to reduce the risk of financial exploitation, the increased transparency — and limits on the agent — can also help mitigate a much more common issue: family conflicts over what an agent is doing with an older person’s money.
For more details regarding these safeguards, and for sample language to consider including in a POA, I highly recommend reading the American Bar Association’s Issue Brief: Drafting Advance Planning Documents to Reduce the Risk of Abuse or Exploitation.
We also have a podcast episode featuring the attorney who authored the issue brief, David Godfrey JD, of the ABA’s Commission on Law & Aging: 091 – Interview: Reducing the Risk of Power of Attorney Abuse.
To complete a better general durable power of attorney, it’s best to work with a lawyer experienced in elder law in your state. Qualified attorneys can help you decide on many important details, such as how many agents to appoint and making provisions for a successor agent. (Some people appoint two people as agents, which means they can collaborate and also potentially keep an eye on each other.)
Summary & Useful Resources
In summary:
- A general durable power of attorney can give the agent pretty broad powers to manage an older person’s money, assets, support services, and even living situation, once the principal (meaning, the older adult) has been “incapacitated.” This means a general durable POA is a good way to plan for the possibility that an aging adult could become mentally impaired.
- Most power of attorney documents will not include safeguards to reduce the risk of financial exploitation, unless you specifically request them.
- Many power of attorney documents don’t do a good job of defining what exactly constitutes “incapacitated,” or who determines “incapacity” and what evidence they should review in doing so.
- Older adults can reduce the chance of being inappropriately deemed “incapacitated” by making sure their general durable power of attorney includes language specifying how incapacity is to be determined. I would recommend language that helps the agent distinguish between temporary and permanent incapacity. I also believe attesting physicians should have to provide some evidence for their conclusion that an older adult is permanently incapacitated.
- Older adults should avoid having no general or financial durable power of attorney. Despite the possibility that a person may inappropriately be deemed incapacitated — or that the agent may not make appropriate choices — it is probably riskier overall to have no mechanism allowing others to step in.
Resources:
Here are some online resources that I’ve found are especially useful:
- “Drafting Advance Planning Documents to Reduce the Risk of Abuse or Exploitation“, from the National Center on Law and Elder Rights, in collaboration with the American Bar Association Commission on Law & Aging
- “The Durable Power of Attorney: Health Care and Finances” from Nolo.com
- “Elder Law Incapacity Planning” by Cynthia L. Barrett, Marquette Elder’s Advisor
- “7 Decisions to Make for Your Durable Power of Attorney” from Margolis & Bloom, LLP
You can also learn more about how decision-making capacity can be evaluated in this article: Incompetence & Losing Capacity: Answers to 7 FAQs.
Or watch my video on decision-making capacity here: How to Know if Your Aging Parent Can Still Make Decisions.
Last but not least, we have some additional useful resources included in the show notes for our related podcast episode: 091 – Interview: Reducing the Risk of Power of Attorney Abuse.
Kttisten says
I have a friend that took her mother from California to nevada and o live because she had dementia and needed help. One she got to nevada, within a months time she realized her mother was too much work and she couldn’t take care of her. She took her back to California because of insurance purposes and was going to find a caretaker for her. Her mother ended up in the hospital with dementia and brain cancer. During that time she talked a friend (notary) in nevada to forge a POA. Once her mother was in the hospital she sent a quit claim deed to her friend for yet another notary, to put the house in her name. She put her name on the bank account and order an ATM card. Mom has been in the hospital for approx 2 months now and daughter is loving it up on mini vacations here and there and everywhere all the while collecting FMLA to take care of her mom and living a frivolous life with her moms savings and monthly pension. There are two other sisters but they don’t know about the money. How can I help out the sisters and family to stop this from happening?
Nicole Didyk, MD says
I don’t know the ins and outs of Nevada or California law, but it sounds like your friend committed a crime. So calling the police might be an option. Otherwise, it’s up to you how you want to let the sisters know about your friend’s actions. They may need to involve the authorities or get legal help.
It sounds like an awful situation and I hope it gets resolved.
cynthia says
My brother has taken charge against my moms wishes to prevent her from moving into an assisted living facility that he feels is too expensive, and is using an older health care directive naming him as an alternate agent after her then husband whom shes since divorced. My mom made a newer General Durable Power of Attorney document notorized which also included a form “Revocation of Durable Power of Attorney” w/language hereby revoke, rescind the aforesaid …and thereby terminates w/her then husbands name. In your opinon realizing youre not reading document in its entirety, would a revocation of the former cancel the former or only her then husband? My older brother has been trying to put my mom into 24 hour supervision for some time now but now that my mom was moving from missouri to be w/me he is acting more agressively to prevent her from doing so. And Im very worried about my mom and she hasnt and does not trust him, nor do I
Nicole Didyk, MD says
That sounds stressful, and it is difficult for me to comment without seeing the documents first hand. It’s probably also important who your mom named as her POA in the new document.
Another issue is whether your mom is capable of making a decision about where she wants to live. If she’s capable, then her decision would take priority over that of her attorney’s.
Kim Andersen says
I currently have durable POA for my 93 year old mom who has recently become nearly incapacitated, and unable to understand\sign legal documents. It is my understanding that at this point I have authority to act as financial\general POA for her automatically. If this is so, how do I prove it ?
Nicole Didyk, MD says
I’m not a lawyer, but my understanding is that if there’s a durable POA for property or finances, the attorney can go ahead and act, if the person has been found incapable.
In my experience, there usually needs to be an assessment of capacity, which is usually done by a doctor or a state or provincially appointed capacity assessor. The attorney may also need to produce the documentation of the POA.
Lisa Roddy says
My 80 yrs old mother just got diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. My 57 yr old brother is listed as her POA. My mother is mostly still able to make normal living decisions-her memory is the problem. My brother is actively touring assisted living already. He intends to move her within a month or 2. She has been giving me “support money” monthly since 2014. starting with $300 to now $500 per month. It’s a small amount in the giant sceem of things-however it is VERY important to me. I have no other income at all. My brother has just informed me that when he finds an acceptable living place and starts proceedings to apply for subsidized housing he will be stopping those very important monthly checks to me. (“need to save every bit of money for what could be a very long term living necessity”). It’s only $6000 per year-basically one month of assisted living for her. But it’s the only thing I have to offer to any friends that will let me move in somewhere without paying rent money I will never have. He also stating that the audit to see if she qualifies for subsidized housing deems those monthly payments as trying to hide money from them-that could jeopardize her getting in somewhere. Here are my questions: 1. she is still capable of wanting to continue those monthly checks to me. I can prove these have been happening for 6 yrs!!! these are obviously not attempts to hide money! Would any audit really not understand that it’s been going on for so long-way way BEFORE she was ever having memory issues or looking for housing. They couldn’t possibly hold those against her, could they? Also, would these prevent her receiving housing-even if they thought we were hiding money? my understanding is that she would be penalized an adequate amount of time for private pay before allowing assistance to kick in. SO, its not like she would be left in the street, And the idea of trying to hold as much money for as long as possible-it’s the direct opposite of what he wants….she has to spend down, so cutting me off only prolongs and adds to the “spend down amounts”. In other words: Can he stop those payments as POA? would an audit see them as “hiding money”? would coming to that conclusion dictate getting no housing at all? And finally-being still very clear on her decisions-doesn’t he have to go by her wishes? Can she remove him as POA at this point because he is forcing his decisions on my mother, myself and one other brother (who won’t say a word about these decisions-he just shuts up and lets the older brother do whatever.
Nicole Didyk, MD says
Hi Lisa, and I don’t think I can answer all of your questions, not being a lawyer or knowing the rules and regulations about qualifying for assisted living in your region. I really can’t comment on what an auditor would think about your monthly stipend from your mother.
I can offer the opinion that as long as your mom is capable of making financial decisions, she can spend her money any way she wants, but if she were to become incapable, the person she has named in her POA for property would be the one who would make decisions about her funds. Similarly, if she has the capacity to appreciate what a POA is, and what the consequences and risks would be if she changed her POA, then yes, she could change it.
Just because a person has been given a diagnosis of dementia (Alzheimer’s disease, or another type of dementia) does not automatically make them incapable.
Sophia says
This has been the most useful and practical guide I’ve seen on the web. I am a Geriatrician. It is a MESS out there.
I have a specific question re: banks allowing “trusted” loved ones, say in an easy example, a legal spouse, to access the bank account when it is a separate not a joint account, and when the patient has dementia but no DPOA finances.
You can email me back.
Nicole Didyk, MD says
Hello to a fellow Geriatrician, although my practice is in Canada! Not sure if I can answer your specific question, but I don’t think a bank can allow access to a non-joint account, even if it’s a legal spouse.
I get all kinds of requests for letters saying a person has dementia “for the bank” and I usually decline the request, and ask for the bank to get in touch with me about what documentation exactly is needed, and why. There can be a lot lost in translation between a family member in my office and the bank,and there can be some misunderstandings on the part of bank employees as well about what a diagnosis of dementia really means. In the current climate of privacy legislation, I hesitate to share any personal health information without good cause.
Hope that’s helpful and I’m so glad you found the article to be useful!
Sonya McIntosh says
Hi,
My father is in a memory care facility, Alzheimer’s disease. He is the POA for my mother, I am successor. How do we remove him as POA without doing a whole new POA for my mom? She would like me to take care of her finances, etc. and she is mentally competent but has physical health problems that make it difficult for her to get out and about.
Nicole Didyk, MD says
Hi Sonya. I am not a lawyer, but I wonder if the wording of your mom’s POA includes a provision for the possibility that your dad becomes incapable? It might also be worth talking to her banking institution to find out what they require to allow you to handle her finances before you spend any money consulting an actual lawyer. If she assigned a durable financial POA for property or finance, you may be able to go ahead and act on her behalf without any additional paperwork.
Jeanelle says
I have medical and durable POA for my mother-in-law. She has been deemed incapacitated by 2 different doctors due to cognitive decline and this was done sometime after doing all the POA papers. Does having the incapacity form from these doctors cover medical and durable POA as where she can not change anything after being deemed incapacitated?
Nicole Didyk, MD says
If I understand you correctly, you are wondering whether your mother-in-law can assign someone else to be her POA, now that she has been found incapacitated? Based on my understanding of the definition of Durable POA, it would depend on how the POA document was written. If her POA indicated that she needed to be deemed incapacitated by two physicians before the POA became active, then it may be that that criteria has been fulfilled. In Canada, where I practice, the regulations vary from province to province (similar to state to state) but generally, a person has to be found incapable of each separate decision before a POA can make a decision for the person. For example, a person could be capable of deciding to have surgery, but not capable of changing their will. The lawyer who would help them change the will would be responsible for determining if they are capable of making that change, based on whether they understand their assets, beneficiaries, and the potential consequences of making a will change (in other words, whether they have “testamentary capacity”). Dr Kernisan answers a similar question here. Hope that is helpful and best of luck!
Don Rogers says
Hi DR. Kernisan, just a note to say I am 82 Yoa and have a few Cognitive Aging memory problems.
I must say your articles on cognitive aging problems is very informative and helpful.
These articles are helping me understand why I am having a few memory problems.
IMO, you are doing a great service for us geezers, I mean SR. citizens. : )
Thank You.
Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH says
Thank you, I’m so glad you find the articles informative and helpful!
Kim says
Do you have any suggestions on how to respond to an elderly person who wants to make a large donation to your organization but you are concerned that they may not be thinking clearly. How can you delicately respond without offending them while trying to protect them? I’ve thought about saying “that is a very generous gift, does this fit into your estate planning?”
Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH says
Hm, interesting issue! Well, personally I might start by asking some additional questions just to see if there is more evidence their thinking is off. Is this person not remembering that they called before? Or saying strange and bizarre things?
You also might want to say something about how for any large donation, you start by asking some additional questions, because you always want to make sure that donors understand the implications of their gift and that it won’t negatively affect their overall financial stability.
This is a way to normalize the questions so that the person doesn’t feel like you are picking on them in particular.
If you really think they are cognitively impaired, it becomes ethically permissible to fudge the truth a bit. You could propose a series of smaller gifts. You could say the next step is that you’ll send them a letter and they’ll have to fill out paperwork. (If they are impaired, they will probably have difficulty executing this.)
In general, I think it depends on whether you are trying to confirm that they have the capacity to make this donation decision, versus pretty sure they are impaired and trying to find a graceful way to prevent a donation you think they don’t understand.
I have more on capacity here: Incompetence & Losing Capacity: Answers to 7 FAQs
Kudos to you for looking out for this person, and good luck!
netmouse says
I will be re-reading this article and links as I prepare these documents / roles for me without anyone able or willing to care for me if incapacitated. It seems many people have this situation, those childless or the children are far away, also a surviving spouse, and those not married. Even those with someone, with age the “other” people die off or move away and too many of us are alone.
Leslie Kernisan, MD MPH says
I’m very glad if the article is helpful for your planning. Yes, it’s a particular challenge to plan when one doesn’t have a good candidate available to designate as agent for health care and general powers of attorney. In some states, professionals are available for this role; you could see if that’s an option in your jurisdiction. Good luck!